So you guys have decided to take that first step in becoming every woman’s fantasy…Good choice! So now I’m going to help you get this ball rolling. After reading this article I will want YOU to go out there and start trying to overcome the main thing that holds you back from approaching a girl- the fear of rejection.

I’m sure you guys can agree that whenever you see a pretty girl,  you may sometimes feel flustered, sweaty, and nervous, maybe even get butterflies. And no this isn’t because of something you guys ate! This is a perfectly normal, natural response to something you’re not use to doing. This is what’s known in the community as Approach Anxiety. The simplest way to get over approach anxiety is to simply face it, just as you would with any other fear. When you repeat something so many times you get used to it, and like I said in my last article, practice makes perfect. Think of it in the same way you learned to ride a bike or drive a car, I bet you were nervous to begin with, but after a few lessons you eventually passed your test with flying colours.

Now, in reference to women, every one of them is different, so your conversations and interactions will more than likely change each time you talk. So when it comes to making those approaches, don’t be disheartened if you’re rejected depending on what you asked, it can sometimes be a good thing! Learn from your mistakes and just tell yourself you didn’t want them anyway! The majority of girls I’ve stopped on the street or in clubs etc have been more than happy to have a chat with me! There are only a small handful of people who may be busy, having a bad day and so on.

Conversations that you will have with girls take practice, time and effort. Over time you will get into your own natural routine of what you would like to say, build the attraction and then close in appropriately. (depending on where your conversation leads)  Just like when you’re playing computer games and you die on a level, you don’t burst into tears and give up! You play again and progress a little further…Then probably die again. But that’s ok, because your next attempt will take you further and further until the game is completed.

Now, down to business, I need those confidence levels brought up! So I want you to make the effort to go out whenever you have free time, whether it’s at your local uni, college, area etc and literally just say ‘hello’ to people you walk past. Whilst doing this, practice keeping eye contact and a cheeky grin on your face. Or if you’re feeling adventurous, try different facial expressions (nothing offensive) and see what reactions you get. Remember this is meant to be fun! If people reply positively to you, feel free to ask how their day has been or more. And eventually, you will notice you become more comfortable with approaching girls or random strangers and you will dramatically reduce that approach anxiety for good!

Danny C  (26 Posts)

Was once the most shy guy you could ever meet, I stumbled into world filled with learning how to meet and attract any woman. I now pass on my knowledge to help any shy guy out there get his perfect girl or any girl he desires. check out my blog at www.attractive-lifestyle.com