Making the first move
By Deji Osobukola
There you are at the Bus stop, Library, Bar, shop or in the street, and right in front of you stands this beautiful angel (I mean drop dead gorgeous girl). Generally, the first thing we do is size ourselves up and frequently we find ourselves thinking “She is way out of my league”.
Have you ever wondered how some average looking guys end up with the most beautiful women? I’m sure a number of times you have come across a couple and you have thought to yourself “How did he do it? What did he say to her?” Well...what he said will always remain a mystery but what he did was, make the bold move to at least say “Hi”. What is the worst that could happen?
Now that you’ve said “Hi” to this beautiful woman, I’m sure there is something nice about her. Go ahead, give her a compliment (she didn’t spend 4 hours in front of the mirror for nothing). Now you have given her a compliment, she is bound to at least have a smile on her face (unless she is having a bad day). What you want to do next is to keep that smile on her face and you can do that by saying something really intelligent or something extremely stupid and funny. Here are a few examples:
“As soon as I saw you I forgot all about the recession”
“All I came here to do is see if I could make you smile, since I’ve failed to do so, I beg to take my leave”
Or if you are bold enough you can say “Your shoes look nice but I think you could do a better job matching them up with your clothes”
I’m not saying use these lines, because we will all end up saying the same things to the girls on campus. You need to be creative!
I hope you are not waiting for me to give you tips on what the line of conversation should be because from here onwards I expect you to be able to keep the conversation going. If you are in a bar, don’t spend the whole night with her; give her some space and time to enjoy the evening with her friends. You could offer to buy her a drink, if you choose to.
Now you are thinking “How do I get her number?” If you find yourself in a situation where you know you are going to see her again, play it cool. Don’t ask for her number. Tell her it was nice chatting and spending time with her and just walk away. But if you know you are never going to see her again... don’t ask for her number! Ask if she has a Facebook account and if it would be ok to add her as a friend. She is probably not expecting this, because she is expecting you to ask for her number, and she might offer to give you her number instead. Trust me, it is a lot easier to keep the conversation going by email and messages, rather than phone calls.
